Good relationships are well balanced, strong and positive with no intimidation, manipulation or abuse. Both partners feel safe in a good relationship.

This type of relationship is not difficult to maintain. You don’t have to “work at it” and it’s not characterised by lots of “ups and downs”. These relationships are filled with honesty and support. Generally you are well suited because you have similar values and aspirations and you tend to work together as a team to achieve common goals.

Good relationships are harmonious and passionate, sex is great, and your partner will be your best friend and will not require you to change.

You want to be in the company of your partner in a good relationship.

Good partners don’t spend most of their time arguing with each other. Good partners can communicate with each other effectively before a row becomes bitter. Because of their honesty with each other, good partners will inform the other partner about the real reason for any argument.

A good partner brings security to you and gives you emotional strength. When you face a disaster or traumatic event, you know that you will be able to cope because you know that you have a partner who will support and comfort you.

You look forward to spending time with your partner and you do not try to find ways to avoid them. You like to talk to your partner but sitting together quietly is a pleasure too.

You respect your partner and this shows when you talk about your partner to others. You don’t put your partner down or ridicule them, either in their company or in the company of others.

You rarely argue, and when you do it’s friendly and no one gets upset. You are with your partner because you want to be - not because you own a house together, the joint bank account, the children, or you can’t bear to leave the dog.

You are in love and you know that you are in love. You do not compare others with your partner except to say how lucky you are. The welfare and happiness of your partner is more important to you than your own.

You never doubt your love for your partner, nor their love for you.

How can i forget my ex Girl freind?

We were be freind for 4 years and wanted to married. But i dont know what happened and all that love changed and become hate. I still trying to forget her but all in vein How can i forget her?

Ans1. I am afraid that there is no way to rush this process, it is a loss, something like death, but the person that you were in a relationship is still alive, but not in your life. I can only tell you what I was told to do and what I have seen other people do when they suffer a break-up. At the time it seems like the end of the world, and that there is no one else for you, but that is not necessarily true. You may feel like isolating and sinking in despair, but even if it seems hard, do your best not to be alone. Spend time with friends or try to think of some things that you might like to do that you have never done before. At first, try to do things that you would not associate with things that you did together with your ex-girl friend. Very often if a relationship ends in hatred, it probably wouldn’t have worked out in the long run, but I don’t know the circumstances of your break-up, so I cannot tell you how to deal with those feelings. What I can do is tell you that if you do not feel good about yourself, it is harder to get on with your life and be happy again. Doing or learning some creative things that will help make you feel good about yourself are a tremendous help. After a particularly hard breakup years ago, a dear friend of mine encouraged me to start coming to a ceramics class with her one night a week, and after a while, I began to look forward to it, and I found that I had the ability to do things that I never thought I could do. I moved on to china painting, and I made a lovely statue that many people thought was store bought. When you find little ways to develop a healthy self-image and learn to feel good about yourself OUTSIDE of a relationship, you never know, you may meet someone with whom you can have a healthy and happy relationship, but-Don’t rush it! Relationships on the rebound may result in another break-up if you haven’t healed from the previous one. Too often people rush into another relationship, not because of a feeling of mutual affection, but out of the fear of being alone. Take care of healing yourself and being good to yourself, cry if you need to, but whatever you do, don’t spend too much time alone. It will only prolong the agony. I know; I did that, and until I forced myself to find my own interests and pursue them. I even went back to school and got my B.A., and by the way, before I was done, I had found the love of my life, (not at the college) and wondered what I had ever seen in the one who “broke” my heart! I was enjoying my education and not even thinking about getting into another relationship when it “happened”! When I learned to love myself, I attracted someone who truly loved me, and it can happen to you, too, believe it or not. Don’t give up dear. Just get out, even if it is hard at first and don’t actively seek another relationship at first; seek to find yourself and what interests you first. The rest will follow. I wish you the best, and most of all, I wish you happiness. Be good to yourself.

Ans2. The best thing to do is go on with your daily life and try not to think about it. I know how you feel, I was in a similar relationship, which ended almost 3 yrs. ago, after I hated the guy (and had good reason to), I never see or talk to him, yet he still haunts my memory on a daily basis.

I don’t think we can ever just forget someone that we were emotionally involved with especially for 4 years. I’m not trying to discourage you, but the best ’solution’ I have found is talking about it. If you have a close friend, therapist or even your mother or sister, let it all out, don’t keep it bottled up. If you don’t release all of your negative energy towards her it will consume you. The more you let out the better you will feel, and after a while things that trigger emotions or memories about her will become less intense and less frequent.
Don’t focus your energy on hating her, all that will do is make you unhappy, focus on the present and the good things in your life right now.
No she will probably never vanish from your memory, but all you can do is, try to redirect your attention to better, happier things.
Don’t worry, I know at first it’s agonizing, but it will get better with time. Good luck.